Different people have different definitions of success. For some, it is about having a thriving business, for some it is about having a glamorous life, while for others, it is all about family. But we all can agree on one thing, finding success in life is not easy, no matter what your profession or how you measure it. It takes patience and determination.
But what happens to failure? What happens when we feel that we have lost our ways? How do we turn our failure into success?
-Don’t measure yourself by other people’s standards
You are better off than you actually know, you have to realize that. If you have loved ones, food on the table, clothes on your back, you have to realize that it is so much more than what a lot of people have. More often than not, we get too wrapped up in achieving the standards of success as set by the society, not us. For example, if you want to stay healthy and following a diet, you get to decide whether you have been successful in becoming healthy and losing weight. You shouldn’t set out to achieve what everybody tells you the ideal weight is.
-Learn from your own experiences and mistakes
Each experience that we have in life, prepares us for the next. It is absolutely okay to make mistakes in life, you are only human after all, and nobody is perfect. But what is important that you learn from these mistakes. Yes, it is going to be difficult, and often at times painful, but wisdom is only born out of pain. Make your own mistakes, do not rely on others, because everyone is an individual in their own rights and no two people’s lives are similar.
-Don’t be too hard on yourself
A wise man once said that bravery is not measured in the number of times you fall down, but how many times you get up after each one of those falls. You can’t pick yourself off of the ground if you are too busy grilling yourself. Nobody is perfect, not even you, and you don’t need to be. Love yourself enough to believe that you can turn this failure around. Go shopping, talk to a friend, cuddle up with your pet, you deserve love and support for how far you have come.
Always, always have your end goal within your sights, that is the first rule of achieving success in life. Don’t get too distracted by what you have not done, that you actually lose sight of what you set out to do. Yes, you are allowed to mourn, but don’t let the grief of your failure consume you. Remember, when you succeed, the world will remember you for the one time you succeeded, not the many times you failed.
-Don’t alienate yourself from your surroundings
It is extremely easy to become depressed and alienate yourself from the world around you, and let consume you. Do not do that. The more depressed you become, the more you will stray from your goal, which will make you even more depressed. It is an endless circle. You deserve all the love and all the support from your friends and family for all that you have achieved so far and how further you have come in life.